5 Signs of a High EQ


By Taylor Burton Published on March 27, 2024

Estimated reading time: 4 Minutes

No doubt you have heard of the term "IQ," which stands for "Intelligence Quotient," and measures your knowledge and reasoning abilities through a series of questions. Perhaps you've even taken an IQ test and are proudly recalling your score at this very moment. But are you aware of IQ's sister measurement: EQ?

EQ (Emotional Quotient) is a measure of our emotional intelligence. Though IQ is better known between the two, EQ is equally important because it can affect our relationships and impact our success in life. If you're wondering if you have a high EQ, here are 5 signs to help you find out.

Try looking for these signs in the people you know, or perhaps even new hires for your law firm. Join us on April 8th for "Improving Hiring Success with Emotional Intelligence Screening" for a fascinating seminar that will include a deep dive into EQ and explain common law firm hiring errors. Examine the relationship between emotional intelligence and professional success, and how it impacts effective communication, conflict resolution, firm culture, and more.

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Empathy. This is the big one! Empathy is the ability to understand the thoughts and feelings of others as if they were your own. It's the act of "putting yourself in someone else's shoes," as many like to say. Those with a high amount of empathy take joy in helping others, offering compliments, and generally uplifting those around them.

Empathy is incredibly important in the field of law because it will aid you in connecting with your clients, who are facing down incredible difficulties. They need empathy more than anyone. If you're seeking new hires or a partner, look for those who demonstrate empathy and authenticity.

Awareness. Emotional intelligence includes having a heightened sense of awareness. Those with a high EQ are masters of reading facial expressions, body language, and can often tell when someone is having a bad day, allowing them to respond accordingly.

This includes having a sense of self-awareness as well. People with a high IQ can easily identify or describe their emotions. They don't let their mood alter logic or affect their decision-making. They also understand issues aren't always black and white and have the ability to admit when they're wrong and apologize (which is not always the easiest thing to do for some). 

Self-Control. Emotional intelligence means that you control your emotions; they do not control you. It also means you do not give in to impulsive actions. You know how to stay grounded and think before you act. Instead of becoming overwhelmed by your emotions, you acknowledge and move past them.

This kind of resilience and adaptability are valuable qualities for any lawyer to possess. Those with great self-control also accept criticism well and seek to apply it rather than be offended by it! This works to aid self-improvement and growth.

Social Skills. Another aspect of a high EQ is a mastery of social skills. Those with a high EQ are often great leaders, communicators, or team players. They have excellent conversational skills and take an interest in who they are speaking to, refraining from tactless comments or making everything about them. This simple act makes them well-liked and respected in the eyes of their peers. It's also an incredibly useful skill when it comes to expanding your network!

Of course, social skills can come in many forms. It could mean a good sense of humor, a calm thoughtfulness, or an admirable curiosity. Even if you're not the office jokester, your EQ could be shining in other subtle ways.

Gratitude. High emotional intelligence is understanding that negative emotions will not serve us, and therefore embracing the positive. Someone with a high EQ does not hold onto resentment, grudges, or feelings of envy. Nothing good can come of those. Instead, they count their blessings while acknowledging that nobody is perfect. This practice of gratitude can help one achieve a happier and more peaceful wellbeing.

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Wondering what your EQ might be? Take a quiz! There are plenty of free quizzes available online. This one from Truity will tell you your type, your superpower, and details on which aspects were measured. Go check it out to learn more about emotional intelligence and yourself!